There are times when it is necessary for us to take a stand and fight. There are other times when it is necessary to sit down and be quiet. Knowing when to fight and when to be still can be difficult for many, and I’m not too sure there’s a broad answer to give that covers all situations. But there is wise direction on when and how given in the Bible and demonstrated by Jesus. I do think, for instance, it is good to defend one’s faith. I do not think it’s good to speak arrogantly and snipe at opponents of our faith, though. I also don’t think it’s good to be of the fighting mindset, always looking for an offender with which to argue.
2 Timothy 2: 23-25 says, “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth.” We aren’t to engage in foolish, ignorant arguments with people who don’t believe and want to fight with you over why you do. This probably includes getting into it on Reddit and in the YouTube comment section, but it can also mean walking away from people you know and love for a minute. When someone’s lone goal is to humiliate you and argue with you, it’s not your calling to outsmart, humiliate, and disprove them. However, it is your job to share the truth of the Bible. As Pastor Dave (not our Pastor Dave) in “God’s Not Dead,” said to Josh, “Don’t try to be clever. Be content with the truth.”
Most of the arguing a Christian will ever do will be with other Christians, though. Some fight, because they are modern day Pharisees and want to condemn all other Christians for a lack of holiness. Many of us, upon hearing these kinds of assaults, feel like it’s our turn and job to fight back and let them know what’s really up. While that kind of fighting sounds admirable, it’s not the correct battle for Christians. I used to love those kinds of fights, but I’m older, more tired, and perhaps a little wiser. I have a general refusal to engage in fighting or arguing. I can have a discussion, and I don’t mind if we disagree throughout the discussion, but once someone else decides it’s not okay that we don’t disagree and gets aggressive in trying to change what I can clearly see in Scripture, I give them one or two warnings before disengaging. I’m just not interested in that type of fight. There are no winners, and it’s unbiblical to proceed, anyway. Even when you really want to, you really don’t have to fight every time an opportunity presents itself.
Titus 3:9-10: “9 Do not get involved in foolish discussions about spiritual pedigrees or in quarrels and fights about obedience to Jewish laws. These things are useless and a waste of time. 10 If people are causing divisions among you, give a first and second warning. After that, have nothing more to do with them.”